The Art Of Mimes

The art of pampering is the language that comes from the heart. Pampering a child is the most beautiful thing we can do as mothers. Every time we find a child who has never or barely been pampered, we notice it and suffer a little, since we would like to give him all those pampering that he needed at the time.

In the art of pampering, the most important thing is to learn to differentiate between a “spoiled” child and a “spoiled” one. In the following lines we are going to explain the difference between both terms.

Let’s face it, if there is one phrase we hear more than we would like, it is:  your child is very spoiled. There is also a:  how spoiled your son is!

Even if the person does not have a bad tone, there is some reproach in his statement. Then we think to ourselves: am I overdoing it? Why do they tell me this every time I pamper my son?

Most people forget that there is a subtle difference between a spoiled child and a spoiled child. In fact, they tend to consider both as synonymous with brattyness. The negative connotation may come from the lack of information in this regard, so we want to clarify the matter.

A mother is said to be cuddly when she is prone to displays of affection for her children. The kisses, hugs, praise and nice words that he gives are part of his way of being and educating.

According to the Dictionary of the Royal Spanish Academy, a spoiled child  is one who receives a lot of pampering (displays of affection, concessions, compliments, the like).  The pampering is a demonstration of tenderness. They are given with care and / or delicacy out of affection. For example, when we cuddle and cuddle our baby, we are pampering him. Why? because we are giving affection in a delicate, tender way.

A spoiled child  is one with whom parents are usually lenient. The difference is that the second has an excess of permissibility from their parents, while the first, simply receives a lot of pampering.

There are children who are pampered and pampered at the same time that is why they end up being spoiled. But not all cases are like this.

The art of pampering

Nothing is more beautiful than taking care of our little ones through the art of pampering carried out wisely. Being a loving, attentive and delicate mother is a way to promote the psychological and emotional well-being of our children.

Contrary to what many think, the child who receives affection and constant manifestations of love, can become stronger and more self-confident than the one who does not receive affection under the slogan: “without nonsense you will be stronger.”

Conscious parenting: I choose to pamper you without spoiling you

Will offering pampering to our children really affect them in such a positive way? The answer is YES and to understand it we must reason the answer based on attachment theory.

The concept of  attachement parenting  coined by pediatrician William Sears sowed the seeds of this conscious parenting movement that we now know as “attachment parenting,” “natural, respectful, or mindful parenting.”

A child who receives pampering can become a more emotionally mature individual and will develop a secure attachment. In turn, a secure attachment favors the development of a secure and independent personality.  That security also benefits your  self-esteem. Both cuddles, caresses and attention are roots that build children with stronger personalities in the long term.

A child who receives pampering, security, a stable affection that knows no blackmail or toxicities, will never become a little tyrant or a dependent child. The child who receives pampering learns the value of affective language and will feel free and safe to respond in the same way to those he loves.

Liberty

Mothers who pamper their children do so because they feel that way. They know that pampering is an exclusive synonym of treating with affection, of educating with affection and consideration. They also understand that parenting with respect also has a very specific purpose: to guide our children from the heart so that day by day they feel safer, freer until the moment comes when they start their own paths.

The pampering in fact will not have an expiration date. They will continue to be practiced even in adulthood, where we continue to treat our children with the most wonderful of affections. After all, that’s what loving wisely is all about.